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Often consciousness is confused with some kind of mind activity, be is analytical left brain functions or intuitive right brain function. Consciousness is not a mind-function, it remains when the brain is gone, while the brain does not. However there is interference between mind-activity and consciousness as every brain function can work better or less depending on the degree of consciousness present.
Consciousness is an “unconditional contentment”. It is the answer to the search for what is “invariant/ unchanging/ primordial/ basic/ fundamental/ elementary”.
Another name for this “unconditional contentment” is “unconditional love”. Its easy to be mistaken on how much one has become an “observer” or how much one is “present” but it is quite sobering to count the moments where one felt “unconditional love” or “unconditional contentment”.
Do you know anything in your life that you love “unconditionally”. If anywhere I assume it will be your spouse, do you love him or her “unconditionally” ? If you think yes, imagine you would find him with someone else in bed ? If this would cut your degree of Love, this love was not “unconditional Love” in the first place.
It is a mistake to think that anyone could love “somebody” unconditionally, as of course this would have as its first and most dominant condition that “it is him or her and not someone else”. This means, by its very nature, unconditional love cannot be directed to something or someone – it is a state of being.
Unconditional Love = Consciousness
If you take this simple equation you can see that there is almost no consciousness in your life!
If is impossible to create “unconditional love” in any direct way – so what other way is there? By reducing its opposite – but what is its opposite? Ponder about it – what is the opposite of “unconditional love”? Probably you will say something like – hate, aggression, violence…
I tell you as surprising as this may sound; it is “conditional love”! Conditional love fills every corner of our lives. We love something (job, house, car, hobby, knowledge, health) or someone (spouse, children, friends) because it/he/she is giving security, self-esteem, purpose, comfort, recognition, certainty,…. and foremost a feeling of “being loved/noticed/valued”.
The Seed Cracked Open
It used to be
That when I would wake in the morning
I could with confidence say,
“What am ‘I’ going to
That was before the seed
Now Hafiz is certain:
That I can no longer call myself
A man, a woman, an angel,
Or even pure
Befriended Hafiz so completely
It has turned to ash
The prevalence of “conditional love” is what needs to be reduced in order to experience more “unconditional love = consciousness”. What can get you there and possible is the only way are extended phases of DLE in your life, of chaos, uncertainty, loss, confusion… Why? – because these phases carry the greatest potential for you to realize that the conditions that you thought where the foundation of happiness are not only irrelevant BUT they are the very obstacle to spiritual liberation.
Of course this only happens to the degree that you can give up the idea that you have lost something important. Only in relatively few cases the changes are so dramatic and so complete that you become so dis-oriented and confused that the past reference points, be it loved ones, possessions, career a.s.o. which means most of the “conditional love” foundations are gone and this is what is experienced as a “Collapse of Ego” and then you are free until you have built again a prison of conditions.
Confusion, uncertainty, loss are the pre-stages to “unconditional love = consciousness” to the degree that we understand their purpose.
To do some training for this future collapse, how about offering your beloved one, at this valentines day, that he can tell you any fantasies (sexual or other) that he has kept secret for so long….. so you can test the degree of your unconditional love and where you need to grow.
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.